I appreciate those who are faithful to reading my blog and want to apologize for the gap this week in posting.
I read an article this week that reported the stat that
1500 pastors leave vocational ministry
each month. The cause was narrowed down to three reasons: moral and spiritual failure and contention with their church. Some even confessed that the pressure of church growth only added to their decision.
Most reading this may not be able to understand, not only the pressures involved with
pastoring, but those unique to being a lead pastor. When I read that statistic, there is a part of me that totally understands, and another part of me that is confused.
Since accepting a position that allows me to lead fellow pastors in my own geographic area (called a presbyter), I have had up close experiences with the struggles that my cohorts are encountering. Some are enduring through difficulty that would cause me to question a divine calling.
That being said, I also know that we pastors can get into a mode where we think we are the only ones that have incredible stress - forgetting that the people we shepherd are working their tails off to provide for their families and can rival us in the number of work hours in a week - and then they volunteer at church to boot!
I have established a number of habits and mindsets that have kept me grounded. I am not sure they will work for anyone else, and maybe some of you will add to my list.
1)
Don't use position/title as a club. Too many
yield to the temptation to use the title pastor (or boss, or
supervisor, or manager, etc.) as a spiritual club that only damages and ruins others.
2) Take regular times during the week/month to just
meditate, think and dream. I would not want to live life without those moments where I imagine how things could possibly be.
3)
Accept things just as they are. The
adage that comes to mind is the idea of playing with the cards you were dealt. An old baseball saying is, "Yesterday ended last night." Whatever was yesterday was yesterday, today is today. Make decisions based on today.
4) Know what is
important (values), and make decisions based on that, no matter what.
5) Take time to
get away. Every year I take a week by myself to get centered and refocused - to make sure I am connected with God and with His plan for me.
6) Have a
prayer place. Older versions of scripture called it a "closet." It is that secluded place that is free from distraction where it is just you and God and no pretenses. It is a place where honesty takes over so you can focus on who really is center of the universe. A place to go everyday (
Matthew 6:6).
What are some ways you stay grounded?